Dating is tough, if not impossible, for shy guys. If you're anything like I used to be you clam up around pretty girls and don't even make an attempt to talk to them for fear of rejection. My dating advice for shy guys is based on real world strategies from a guy who's been there.
You've probably heard the advice "What's the worst that can happen? She'll say no. Big deal." Which, as you already know, is horrible advice to give to a shy man. When you're shy, a "no" is a big deal. But it doesn't have to be. And I'll show you exactly how to go from shy guy to social master in just 3 steps.
1) Mind Your Appearance
They say "the clothes make the man" and I agree in this case. If you're shy, dressing in nice clothes makes you feel better about yourself. A confident male can dress in any clothes and feel comfortable talking to beautiful women. But a shy guy should dress in clothes that make him feel good.
Besides just clothes you should also get your hair styled professionally and shave daily. Facial hair doesn't look good on most guys and until you've developed your confidence make it easy on yourself and shave.
Next, go to a department store and get some nice cologne. Ask the counter girl for samples of any that smell good to you and take them home to try out. Cologne smells differently after it's absorbed into your skin than it does when you're smelling it at the store. When you find the cologne that smells best on you pick up a bottle and use it daily. A dab behind each ear and the inside of each wrist.
2) Develop Your Speaking Skills
Public speaking is one of the top fears most humans have. To feel confident around women, first you should feel confident around men and women you could care less about impressing. Do that by joining a speaking club such as Toastmasters. You'll meet every week and either listen to short speeches or give short speeches. Once you learn how to speak to small groups of people (these clubs usually have less than 10 people per meeting) you'll find it's really easy to be confident speaking to beautiful women.
3) Act As If
My surefire method for conquering shyness is to act as if you're not shy. It's not as difficult as you might think. The next time you're out and you spot a woman you want to talk to just pretend you're a millionaire playboy. How would a filthy rich Casanova approach this woman? Visualize what will happen and how this woman will react to you. Then go up to her with absolutely no preconceived notions. If you like her, ask for her number, if you don't, no big deal, you're just practicing.
Sick of being dateless and alone? Markus Mazur is a former dateless loser who broke out of severe depression and started getting dates (as many as 7 dates in 7 nights) using the simple dating tips at http://www.7DatesIn7Nights.com
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